Iwalani learned as a child that she always had to help her mother who was chronically anxious and overwhelmed. She was expected to make her mother's life easier. Her mother's needs were more important than her needs. As an adult, Iwalani lacked the skills to prioritize tasks and take care of her own needs. She thought of everything she had to do and often freaked out. There was simply not enough time to take care of the kids, her job, the house, the meals, etc.
In therapy, she learned that she had to plan carefully when she would schedule certain tasks to give herself a little time each day to slow down and relax. She also learned to delegate tasks, which was very new to her. It took some time to implement these new behaviors. She talked to her child self and reassured her that within a week generally everything gets done and that she has a right to take things step by step. She became a much more peaceful person.
As psychologists, we can teach skills that were never learned.
Thank You.
In therapy, she learned that she had to plan carefully when she would schedule certain tasks to give herself a little time each day to slow down and relax. She also learned to delegate tasks, which was very new to her. It took some time to implement these new behaviors. She talked to her child self and reassured her that within a week generally everything gets done and that she has a right to take things step by step. She became a much more peaceful person.
As psychologists, we can teach skills that were never learned.
Thank You.
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