When you have experienced difficult situations growing up, you may have a sense of loneliness inside. Often this is a hidden feeling. Since it is tied to childhood experiences, we may call this part the "lonely inner child". There are many self-help books describing this situation such as "Healing the Child Within" by Whitfield. The most important plan of action is to commit yourself to become a parent to this inner child and respect and care for him or her. Becoming best friends will become a rewarding healing journey.
It's very easy to be critical and judgmental. In traffic you may criticize other drivers for making stupid mistakes and risking accidents. People close to you often "don't get it" even after you explained things several times. At times you may be critical with yourself for repeatedly doing things wrong. Are you aware of what triggers your critical attitude? Becoming aware helps greatly to shift to more acceptance and gentleness with yourself and others. Nobody is perfect and acceptance of this human condition creates more inner peace.
I invite you to share your experiences with being critical.
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When you are stressed and calm your body by slowing down your breath (breathe 3 seconds in, 4 seconds out) ask yourself if there is anything you can do to ease your stress. Suggestions are: Giving yourself more time to go to places, schedule time for yourself to relax, practice gratefulness for the good situations in your life, and
maybe talk to a close friend about options and choices.
I invite you to post things that help you to be more peaceful in stressful situations so we can all benefit.