When a friend or relative close to you is in trouble and confides in you, you may want to help and give suggestions and solutions because you care. It's very understandable to get angry and upset when these suggestions fall on deaf ears and are not implemented. You may feel: Did I waste my time listening and caring?
Frequently people just want to vent but are not ready to make any changes. It may be helpful to ask the person if he or she just wants you to listen or get some advice. It will help you to know how to best help your friend.
I invite you to share your experiences when your advice is being ignored.