Denial is very powerful and can take many forms. It is present when you are not in touch with the truth about your actions or thoughts. You may feel: I don't have a drinking problem and can stop any time but others close to you know that it has not worked in the past.
You may think that you are entitled to blow up and get mad because the other person was uncooperative or lazy and did not do what you expected him or her to do. As long as you have some denial (which is often unconscious) change is difficult, if not impossible. When you begin to face the reality or truth about yourself, healing and change can occur.
Melanie was in denial about gaining weight. She kept complaining about the fact that the dry cleaner shrank some of her clothes and they no longer fit her. When her boyfriend gently told her it's not the dry cleaner but her weight gain, she was shocked to discover the truth. She had gained seven pounds. Once she could see the truth, she could start on a weight management program.
As psychologists, we assist people in facing the truth and initiating change.