The inner child learned about how to think and act from the family he or she grew up with. Paul grew up with a great deal of criticism and rejection. It was very painful for him. As an adult, he became very angry when he was treated with lack of respect. He exhibited a profound sensitivity to perceived rejection. Rejection became a trigger for him. Within seconds he was overwhelmed with rage and anger and acted out these feelings. He yelled and screamed at people and even walked off jobs. Afterwards he felt shameful about his behavior.
In therapy he learned that he could not handle rejection/lack of respect because of his painful past. He learned how to step back from his reactions, validating and acknowledging the feelings of the child self and telling him to be quiet and not act up and think about how to handle the situation in an adult manner. It took some time to learn these skills but Paul felt much better about himself. He became a much nicer person.
As psychologists we teach skills he never had a chance to learn.
Thank You.
In therapy he learned that he could not handle rejection/lack of respect because of his painful past. He learned how to step back from his reactions, validating and acknowledging the feelings of the child self and telling him to be quiet and not act up and think about how to handle the situation in an adult manner. It took some time to learn these skills but Paul felt much better about himself. He became a much nicer person.
As psychologists we teach skills he never had a chance to learn.
Thank You.
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