Malia was recently married to Richard. They cared a lot for each other and thus it was surprising that they had some difficulties. When Malia wanted to discuss issues that bothered her, such as finances or chores, Richard shut down and they were not able to resolve problems. Malia got very angry and accused Richard of being selfish and uncaring. Richard triggered her anger because he reminded her of her mother. Her mother ignored many of her needs when she grew up and was emotionally unavailable. Richard got triggered because he felt criticized by his dad growing up and learned to shut down.
Understanding such reactions will help you be more patient with each other and address issues in a more adult manner. As psychologists we assist people in better understanding triggering circumstances.
Thank You.
Understanding such reactions will help you be more patient with each other and address issues in a more adult manner. As psychologists we assist people in better understanding triggering circumstances.
Thank You.
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